Thursday, January 8, 2009

When two people don't seem to match

I’m not really fond of meddling with other people’s business but it doesn’t mean I can’t have my own opinion about their lives. But don’t worry, I don’t go straight in front of them and tell them “hey your life sucks!” I got my own life to worry about.

It just so happened that I have this very dear friend and I cannot really figure out how she turned out to be madly in love with this guy. I thought she was just fond of the feeling of being with someone but would soon lose interest. But I realized they’ve been together for quite a while now! Where’s the breakup I’ve been waiting for?

You may think I’m cruel for wanting them to break up, or I’m just one bitter person who can’t find her own happiness. Maybe I am or I just want to have a partner in this world of singlehood. But can it be possible that I want the best guy for her? Ha ha sounds very mommy-ish!

My point is, they just don’t seem to match. I think my friend is too smart, pretty and way too talented. She has this amazing confidence and ability to make people give her a second look and hear what she has to say. (I’m so jealous!)

Then one night she just came to me with all sparkly eyes saying she may have found the one! The one? Him? Seriously???

Yeah, seriously.

I’m not here to demean other people. Now I’m feeling guilty. I just can’t really understand why such an exceptional lady would fall in love with someone…ordinary.

She could’ve found someone she can also have a good laugh with, someone who would also love her despite her immaturities, someone who would also make sense…but better.

Don’t I really like him that much? Not really… I’m just wondering could he really be the right one for her?


  1. I feel this way about all of my friend's partners. I guess it's because you care for them so much you can't understand how they can tolerate/choose the people they do.

    Dont feel bad!!!

  2. I've felt the same way about a really good friend's relationship, but I was always confused about it...because I couldn't figure out if he was really "no good" for her, or if I simply wanted her for myself.

    I was distraught and confused with the fact that she was willing to give up her aspirations to be with him. I opted to gently point out his flaws, and the type of future she will have with him. I realized that in my mind, her personal happiness is greater than my dislike for him.

    They've been going strong for years now, and are now engaged & living together.

  3. Ugh, I know exactly what you are talking about!! My roomie is dating the dictionary definition of loser right now and there's nothing I can do or say to make her realize she's just worth so much more!!


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